Hi, I’m Tobi. I’m a licensed therapist and the only therapist at EmpowHer Counseling. When you book a consultation, you talk to me. When you start therapy, you work with me. No intake coordinator, no handoff, no being matched with a stranger.

I work online with women across Colorado and Washington, especially the ones who look like they have it all handled. The high achievers. The people-pleasers. The women running the meeting, the household, and everyone else’s feelings, while quietly wondering when it’s their turn.

I didn’t start out as a therapist

I spent more than 20 years in corporate: IT consulting, business operations, and Human Resources. Somewhere along the way I became known as the “relationship girl,” the person people came to when they needed someone to actually listen. I watched brilliant women burn out, shrink themselves to fit, and apologize for taking up space in rooms they had earned.

So when you tell me about the boss, the promotion you didn’t get, or the performance review living rent-free in your head, you won’t have to explain it. I’ve sat in those meetings.

Why I do this work

I grew up in a family that made independence non-negotiable. My parents encouraged me (strongly, I might add) to always be able to take care of myself. I’m grateful for that. I also learned that being able to handle everything alone isn’t the same as being okay.

I’ve had my share of battles: career dissatisfaction, my father’s illness and death, a lifetime of weight cycling, and choosing a career over having children in a world that has a lot of opinions about that. My own therapy changed my life. I became a counselor to pay that forward.

I also personally navigate ADHD, so I know what it’s like when your brain is running twelve tabs at once and none of them are the one you need.

What I help with

• Anxiety and depression, especially the high-functioning kind nobody else notices
• People-pleasing, perfectionism, and boundaries
• Sex therapy: low desire, desire mismatch, pain, and life after purity culture
• Complicated relationships with mothers and family
• Life transitions, grief, and loss
• Body image and self-worth
• Career stress, burnout, and workplace dynamics
• LGBTQ+ affirming counseling

How I work

I don’t believe in one-size-fits-all therapy. I draw from humanistic, person-centered, feminist, relational, strengths-based, and mindfulness approaches, all through a trauma-informed lens, and I pick the tools that fit you, not the other way around. In plain English: we’ll figure out the patterns and beliefs keeping you stuck, where they came from, and what to do about them. Then we’ll build practical skills you can actually use on a Tuesday afternoon.

I’m warm, and I’m also honest. I laugh in session (I often curse in session as well). I’ll ask the question you’ve been dodging. And nothing you bring is too weird, too small, or too much.

Credentials

• Licensed Professional Counselor (LPC), Colorado, LPC.0015842
• Licensed Mental Health Counselor (LMHC), Washington, MHC.LH.70127044
• National Certified Counselor (NCC), 883917
• Master’s degree, Counseling Psychology, University of Colorado, Denver
• Bachelor’s degree in business, The Florida State University
• Volunteer counselor, Gender Identity Center of Colorado, 2016-2018

Let’s talk

The first step is a free 30-minute phone consultation. You tell me what’s going on, I tell you how I’d approach it, and we both decide whether we’re a fit. No pressure, no pitch.